The devil completely lost his grip over my relationship and marriage the day the eyes of my understanding became open to the truth that there is nothing like 'personal salvation' in marriage, no such thing at all.
After marriage your heaven destination no longer becomes yours to decide anymore, the results of your living doesn't affect you alone, but your spouse as well. I'm talking about the fact that you'll be going anywhere your partner is heading, your claim to personal salvation ends at the marriage altar the moment you made the decision to accept completel responsibility for the life and soul of another person. You no longer become the guardian of your soul but that of your spouse as well, you cannot be careful with your own salvation while you let your spouse become careless with theirs, because wherever the product of their life here on earth is leading them that is also where you are also going.
Ephesians 5:27 talks about a presenting.
There will be a presentation of the soul the Master has placed under your care guys, a spotless and blameless presentation, one without commas, spots or wrinkles, I just wish someone can understand this. you have to really think through this marriage thing before making that decision, it's not about the diamond rings and pretty dresses anymore, the priority is never about making love and making babies, marriage is much more deeper than the surface that Hollywood and Zworld is painting for us, much more deeper.
What will you be presenting
Who will you be presenting?
In what condition will you be making your own presentation?
Is it with blisters and swollen eyes? Is it with emotional baggage and pain? Will you be presenting a broken, dejected, confused, regretful wife before God knowing that God doesn't accept garbage and leftovers?
Will you be presenting a worn out, frustrated, pushed into cheating, sex starved, I wish I never married you husband before God knowing the kind of talent multiplication He expects from you?
In What condition will you be making your presentation?
The most amazing part about this truth is that there must be a presentation, one way or another, you will either be making your presentation in the presence of all the host of heaven singing hallelujah with the choirs of angels or you'll be making your presentation in the pits hell with the devil and his colleagues.
This changed my life, this shaped my perspectives, this formed my thought pattern and marriage actions. I just knew I am not that dumb to date just anyone after realizing this, let alone marry out of list, selfish desires or temporary pleasures. I just know that my marriage cannot collapse under my watch, not when I stay ruled by the counsel of the Holy Spirit, I just know it. I just know that I cannot marry wrong, I just know that even the "I love you" that comes out of my mouth has an effect of my salvation, oh leketetetebredosh krrteeetee. Every "YES I DO" promise I exchange with my spouse at the altar will be a determining factor on my journey towards heaven.
It will be very foolish of me to risk my salvation because I am more focused on the size of my wedding cake than the sustainability of the amazing grace I carry. It will be careless of me to spend more time prepararing for a surprise proposal with flowers and music that has no effect on my salvation. Our Dubai honeymoon adds nothing. Changing into 5 different dresses at the wedding reception will not change my eternal destination, catatayema brahamatosh, they play no part.
We have to get this right guys, out life's depends on it, our happiness depends on it, our salvation depends on it, I was not born into the earth to escort anyone to hell in the name of marriage, I cannot be married to anyone who will make it impossible for me to take responsibility for their salvation and mine. I cannot afford to let anyone come into my life and marry me out of God's beautiful fellowship, I know too much to allow that error, I know that when TWO becomes ONE in marriage salvation no longer becomes personal, yours and mine becomes linked, we become dependent on each other's righteousness, we become ONE FLESH, we share ONE SPIRIT, journeying towards ONE DESTINATION.
Can somebody confess this with me in faith;
IT IS TOO LATE FOR MY MARRIAGE TO FAIL!
