A Reason To Sex For Marriage: Part 3

DISAPPOINTMENT:She did it because he said he "loved" her. He pushed her into it because he wanted to prove he was a real man. Her friends said it was all right as long as she really loved him. His friends told him everybody else had and what was he waiting for?And they were utterly wrong. Sex is never casual. Sex is God's gift, and nothing God ever gives is casual. Because sex itself is so deep, sexual hurt is never shallow. What you do and what you learn in sex builds a pattern, burns a memory that will last you for life. Scars from sexual sin never go away. Each time you link your body and your soul to someone else, the re- runs start of everything you have done before with anyone else. That is why "try before you buy" is such a stupid idea when it comes to sex.In the trying is the buying.Every hurt, every disappointment, every rejection carries over to the next time.You can't avoid the re-runs.

A Reason To Save Sex For Marriage: Part one

DEBT: Over a million teenage girls get pregnant every year. Free love isn't free. Each baby born to a teen outside of marriage demands more than $ 100,000 in government welfare. The cost of teenage child-bearing in the US alone in a single year is over 16.5 BILLION dollars! But the cost is much higher than that. What price do you put on a hurt heart? How much is a mind worth without peace? Who counts the cost of a shattered and shamed self, a lost trust, ruined respect or a broken dream? What does it really cost to bring an unwanted baby into the world, or even worse to take its little life because it interferes with someone's personal pursuit of pleasure? Free sex is never free. Someone always pays. Promiscuity has an awful price. "You are not your own."(I Cor. 6:19)

A Reason To Save Sex For Marriage: Part 2

DISEASE: Twenty years ago there were two sexually transmitted diseases. Now there are twenty-nine. Every nine months they find a new one. Twelve million people contract a sexual disease every year in the US alone; 33,000 a day. Some, like AIDS, will kill you in just a couple of years. Some will just make you wish you were dead. Some will hurt your children. Marry a virgin as a virgin yourself and both of you live with the same love all your life. That's God's plan. True sexual freedom dose not means the ability to sleep with anyone as often as you like. Real sexual freedom means to be able to love without walls, without caution, without cares; to be able to trust the one you love without reservation and without hesitation. All this is possible in marriage—and only in marriage

3 Ways to Guarantee Your Husband Won't Cheat on You?

Before we get started with this article, let me get something out in the open. We can't change our husbands and we certainly cannot control his morals and convictions, but we can influence our husbands by using a little bit of common sense and Godly wisdom. So with that said, try these three ways to maybe guarantee your husband never cheats on you. 

1) Stay Connected Emotionally and Spiritually With Your Husband

Marriage is a relationship that involves two people in such a way that whatever you do, good or bad affects the other. If a wife makes her career, friends, money, hobbies, clothes and other stuff more important than her husband she is disconnecting herself from him emotionally and spiritually. A husband wants to be the most important part of his wife's life. Don't separate your life from his. 

Emotional adultery starts in the heart and when a husband feels emotionally distant from his wife it is much easier for him to see greener grass on the other side of the fence. It's no excuse for adultery and it certainly does not make it right, but reality dictates it will most likely happen in marriages where there is no "togetherness". 

Now a days, married couples unknowingly separate themselves from one another by not having their priorities in balance. In many homes friends, hobbies and careers come first and husband and wife never spend any quality, intimate time together. If you never do intimate and fun things together, you will lose the glue that holds the marriage together. 

2) Let Your Husband Be the Man in the Marriage

Many wives don't realize they are doing it, but they often reprimand, belittle and boss their husbands around like he is one of the children. Are you his mother or his wife? He wants to feel close and intimate with his feminine wife, not his mother, or worse, a dictator. Make your man feel good about his role as "man of the house" and "man of the marriage", because he is the man and you are the woman. Mixed up roles and feministic attitudes cause confusion, which creates crumbling of the "one flesh" of marriage. 

Wives need to stop micromanaging their husbands and let them direct the show for a change. Do you realize that it is wives that need to change? That's because women walk into marriage with rose-colored glasses on. They think marriage was created just for them and their happiness! When wives nag, complain, control or try to change their husbands they are essentially saying they are not good enough. What a way to make your man impotent with his wife! If you want a virile man that only has eyes for you, then treat your man like a man! Stop treating him like a little boy! 

3) Keep Yourself Healthy and Fit

The worse thing a woman can do when married is let herself go. I don't care if you are 20, 40 or 65 years old, a woman can still make herself beautiful. Beauty is relative, meaning, so what if you are getting older, use it to your advantage to make yourself fit and good-looking no matter what your age. Many women, after they get married or reach a certain age stop taking care of their health and weight and allow themselves to become frumpy and unhealthy.

I know of beautiful women, who are nice and slim, who are between the ages of 50 and 70 and they look great! They walk every day, eat right and take care of themselves. And so can you! There is nothing wrong with getting older, what makes it wrong is not taking care of your appearance and health. Being healthy should be a priority in your life. We absolutely need to care about our health because frankly folks, if we don't have our health, nothing else matters in life because we won't enjoy it.

Advice to young adults

Bad decisions affect each of our lives regardless of age. 
Problematically, when a decision 
backfires, we pout about making a mistake and doubt our future 
abilities; we take two steps back for every step we move forward. 
Even worse, the bad decisions we 
all make wreak havoc in our lives 
and create stress that damages our 
bodies and minds. One way to 
counteract habitual bad decision- making is to make excellent 
decisions as often as possible. We Young adults, in particular, need to 
make better decisions and make 
them more consistently. This is 
especially true when it comes to 
this issues that young people 
struggle with most often – time management, priorities and 
perspective. Bad decisions in these 
areas do not happen in isolation. 
There are actually many causes 
lurking in the background such as: 
(1) lack of forethought, (2) inability to analyze consequences, (3) 
fleeting time, (4) fear of failure and 
(5) peer pressure.May God Help us make better dicisions in Jesus name

Hollywood Romance or Real Relationship?

You've dreamed about a dashing romantic hero who will sweep you off your feet and take you away from the dullness of everyday life. Far away from the boredom of the mundane, you will delight in the continuous excitement of true love!

'Course, there are many, many ways this scene can play out. It's as unique as your own life, colored by the different experiences you've had and the people you've met.

For instance, you just might find yourself on a cruise ship in the middle of the north Atlantic Ocean, and a handsome young man discovers how beautiful you are. Amidst chaos and confusion, as the ship begins to sink, the two of you run away from the crowds to steal a desperate kiss.

Or, you may be listening to a radio program and hear the sorrowful voice of a young widower, struggling to survive the loss of his beloved wife. Strangely compelled to write to this man, you send off a letter inviting him to meet you on top of the Empire State Building on Valentine's Day for a second chance at love.

Even better, you risk your own life rescuing a young man who was thrown in front of a subway train. Sitting by his side, as he remains in a coma at the hospital, you gradually fall in love with his rugged older brother, who's more suited for you than you ever imagined.

Take your pick - there's even the slim, but plausible, chance that a young European prince would choose your college for some undergraduate work in an attempt to discover the ins and outs of American lifestyle. Instead, he falls hard for the "girl next door" who's not even expecting love.

Um, yeah. If these plots sound vaguely familiar, it's because they are. All of these situations have been presented as a wonderful ideal of romance and true love, made to sell us on the idea of love being all you need. Hollywood does a great job of that, ignoring the fact, of course, that fifty percent (or more) of marriages based on love continue to end tragically in divorce.

Maybe you have observed or even suffered as a casualty of divorce, shaken to your core, trying to reconcile the romantic dreams you desire with the harsh reality of a broken world. Every guy you meet is held to an impossible standard - the perfect romantic hero who will never desert his lover. Well, if he doesn't meet the standard, you can't possibly be hurt by him, right?

Right. You also might find it difficult to get married, though. Guys are like that - they want to be the hero, so if they aren't, they probably won't stick around!

What does a real relationship consist of? Let's pick a more authoritative source this time. How about the Bible?

Matthew 19:4-6:

And He [Jesus] answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He Who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female' and said, 'for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." (NKJV)

Wait a minute....where's the part about the dashing romantic hero? What about flowers, and chocolate, and candlelit dinners? I don't even see anything about true love!

Maybe that's because marriage is more than love - it's about two becoming one. It's about serving your guts out to make life easier for the other. It's about faithfulness in the midst of trials. It's about better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health.

What's going to happen after the honeymoon? Working, cooking, cleaning, paying bills, changing diapers, disciplining children, serving on committees, corralling teenagers, saving for retirement....etc. etc. etc. There will be vacations and romance, sure, but a whole lot of work in between. Plus, you will have a 24/7 accountability partner to observe every single sin and weakness in your own life.

If you can find a man who's willing to go through this with you, then you have found a treasure, and true love, even without the swelling orchestral strains and softened camera angles! A committed, real friendship will long outlast the short-lived emotions of romance.

What does it mean to go through life together? To become one flesh? Paul said it best:

"This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church." Ephesians 5:32 NKJV

What did Christ do for us? He laid down his life so we might be saved. If there's ever a romantic hero, this is it! What does (or should) the church do for Christ? We give our lives for His glory.

You can hold out for a dashingly romantic story, to be swept off your feet and drawn into the rapturous songs of love. Or, maybe you can ground yourself down to earth, and keep your eye out for a friend who wants to walk this journey of life together with you. If you are willing to give your life for another, to serve, rather than to be served, then love will find you.

Even if it's just a little bit different than your dreams!

Why Most Young People Today Are Not Prepared For Marriage

This article speaks in generalities and what I have experienced in the young people I personally know today. I am not putting all 20-somethings into this category. You be the judge and decide for yourself if you are prepared for a lifetime marriage or not.

Most young people are not prepared for marriage because they have never been taught the wife/husband and the woman/man roles for marriage. Most women walk into marriage with the attitude of how her husband can make her happy 24/7 and both of them walk into the marriage with feelings of desire and lust. This is not to say they do not love one another, but it is to say which are you basing the marriage on, love or feelings.

Many times, because the husband does not truly know what his role is in the marriage, the wife in her disappointment becomes bossy and critical of her husband, but she does not know what his role is either, or hers for that matter. Then because of the lack of positive attention from his wife, the husband becomes bored and thinks he is not in love anymore.

Of course if you're going to have a marriage just like everyone else that will have a 50 to 60 percent chance rate of failure, then I suppose it does not matter if you have not been taught how to treat the opposite sex and love the person you marry. But if we want a godly marriage based on God's principles then we DO NEED to know a little bit about what is expected of us so we can honor God with our marriage, not turn it into a shambles.

A couple should never walk into marriage thinking that the marriage is for their happiness and enjoyment, or think that our spouses are supposed to fulfill our every nonsensical whim and make us happy 24/7. That would be a fairytale marriage and there is no such thing as a fairytale marriage. The closest you will get to a fairytale marriage is if you manage your marriage under God's relationship principles. Love must be without dissimulation.

Have you ever noticed how the fairytale books always say in the end "and they lived happily ever after"? But this is VERY misleading and presumptuous, would you say? It's just like telling small children about the existence of santa clause and the tooth fairy. It is ridiculous to have your daughter grow up believing that she will be whisked up by prince charming and the marriage will be happily ever after. It's a delusion.

Let me show you the difference between the fairytale marriage and the Godly Marriage. Now remember, fairytale marriages don't last because reality sets in and couples cannot handle the stress put upon what they presumed would be happily ever after.

Godly Marriage

* Godly marriages believe that happiness comes from within our spirit because of our relationship with God, and that marriage is made for honoring Godits creator!

* Godly marriage is based upon God's principles of love, serving one another in love, which ultimately honors God.

*Godly marriage is built upon commitment until death do you part rather than the "I'm not in love with you anymore" part.

Fairytale Marriage

* Fairytale marriages believe that happiness comes from each other, which makes marriage even more selfish.

* Fairytale marriages believe that love is a feeling, which causes people to think they are not in love anymore.

* Fairytale marriage never last because the fairytale eventually ends.

*Fairytale marriage are based on feelings rather than commitment