A Beautiful Song Of Love

I awoke this morning in the dark my heart filled with a song and knew it would stay with me every hour, all day long.

I didn't yet know the words, but I loved the melody, and discovering what it said would be such a joy to me.

It wasn't new, this song I had, I had heard it before, and suddenly realized I sang it every day, and it said 'you I adore!'

For God has given me a gift, one sent to me from above, and I must sing my joy every day, in a beautiful song of love.

I love your face, I love your voice, I love to just be with you, and each morning the song Is more lovely, 'tis old, but yet so new.

Sometimes it's a dancing jig, sometimes a lullaby, but all the time it just fills my heart, and takes me soaring so high.

I think that this morning's song is a wonder, but tomorrow's will be brand new, and every one is the best of all for they all say "I LOVE YOU!"

Let's talk about sex

Be careful what you take in, the music and movies you watch could desensitizes you to the truth. It is the truth you know that will set you free. You are to honour God with your body, sex is not allowed outside marriage.

Even though Nike may say 'Just do it!" You're not to with SEX!
The simple thought of sex crossing your mind is not a sin but the desire for sex is the sin! Sex goes beyond the physical, it's spiritual and emotional! In the bible, when a man sleeps with his wife the bible says "He knew his wife" but when a young man sleeps with an unmarried woman the bible says "He laid with her" Don't let anybody deceive you, you can know them by their words. e.g "You don't need to tell anybody what we are about to do!" If a guy comes to you with a condom, he is a con(artist) and you are dumb! Virginity is something you give away and not what is taken from you by force! If you were violated and tampered with, only your virginity is broken, you destiny isn't, so don't mess up yourself! You are still so precious in God's sight. God values you, He values your body so honor Him with it.85% of those who live together before getting married end up divorced. 50% of marriages in UK and 80% of black marriages in US end up in divorce. If you sell yourself cheap, you end up being treated anyhow. A man who cannot treat you like a lady doesn't deserve you and any woman who cannot treat you like a prince doesn't deserve you!
Don't start what you can't handle! The skin is only a few centimetres deep and beneath that skin, there are 18million nerves passing information round. When ever someone touches you sexually, your nerves sends info that are stored somewhere in your brain. That's why when you see the person later you remember the touch! You have imprints of people on your life through sexual relationships. Don't let anyone touch you in a way that is not holy. From hugs to kissing and then the deed happens unplanned! Once you mess up your sexual life, it messes up your spiritual life! Get it right!
Exodus 26, 27 gives a summary of the Tabernacle. It was divided into the outer court, the Holy place, Holy of Holies. As a human being, your body is the outer court, your soul the holy place and your spirit the holy of holies!
The outer court gave access to many levities and they brought their sacrifices there. Your body is your outer court many people will have access to you, you'll meet many boys/girls but be careful, many will come and go. Proverbs 4:23. Only the priests were allowed into the holy place. The holy in your body is your soul. Your emotions are conceived there. Before you let anyone touch your soul, be very careful! The reason many broken relationship ends up a soul tie is because they let someone else make an impact on their soul and no matter how much they try to forget the person it is difficult. Guard your soul, don't let just any nice person get in. The holy place had a lampstand in it, anyone who must get into your holy place was be a lamp. Ladies, any man that wants to court/date/marry you must have more light than you already have! He needs to be the lamp! Don't settle for less!
Only the High priest was allowed to enter into the holy of holies (Hebrews 9:7) ! He had to break through the veil to get in. There is only man allowed to get into you and that is your husband! When a man sleeps with a virgin, it's more than just sex! It's spiritual, it's a blood covenant!
Guys note, everywhere you go as a man and have sexual releases, your testicles will testify against you! The reason God gave you two testicles is because the bible says out of 2 or more witnesses, a statement is established (Deuteronomy 17:6).
There is a point when sexual activities goes beyond the physical, it becomes a demonic activity! It is spiritual!
Easy sex does not make more romance, neither does not give joy and happiness!
When you have sex while waiting to be married, you crush the foundation of your marriage!
Don't let anyone blackmail you to stay in a relationship! After giving your life to Christ break away from every ungodly relationship!

Titus 2:11-12
To get out:
It requires the decision to maintain your integrity!
It requires a bold step to confront ungodly relationship you are in!
Break away and make a vow to be pure!
Keep yourself and honour God with your life!
No sex is safe sex!
Desire change, deny yourself!

A Reason To Save Sex For Marriage :Part 7

DIVORCE:When so many marriages crash and burn all around you, you need to do it right the first time. Does sex outside of God's laws for love lead to closeness, care and commitment? Quick answer: No way. Almost without exception, pre-marital sex ruins friendships and puts the lid on any chance of long-term love. Promises flow freely in the heat of the moment, but in the cold light of the morning after, caresses often turn into contempt. A single night of compromise isn't worth a life time of regret. Making love doesn't make him/her love you.Listen carefully: You can have a marriage that lasts. You can have a family that doesn't break up. You can stay married to one person and love them for as long as you both live. Learn from those who failed. Then don't do what they did. STAY CLEAN. Save yourself for the special someone God can bring along at the right time. You are worth the wait.

A Reason To Save Sex For Marriage :Part 6

DEPENDENCY: Sexual sin addicts. Sex, divorced from commitment and care, carries its own in-built emotional black hole. Addictions form when you try to derive lasting pleasure from something that cannot in its very nature satisfy. Sex outside of God's loving laws can never fully satisfy. Go the wrong way on this from the start, and you will find that sex can hook you worse than any drug, and with as dangerous consequences as any chemical. (Eph. 5:3-9)Sexual addiction doesn't have to involve someone else. You can become sexually addicted by masturbation, visual or audio pornography. Sexual sin is not always fornication or sex with an unmarried person. (I Cor.. 6:18) Sex in violation of God's law shuts the door to Heaven and opens the gates of Hell. Get hooked on sex and only God's mercy can get you free and healed. If you don't want to get hooked, stay away from hookers. (Prov. 5:1-23)

A Reason To Save Sex For Marriage: Part 5

DILUTION:Every sexual act is a giving away of yourself. Do it with a dozen and you tear away twelve parts of your secret inner self that you will never get back. Why do you think so many people with multiple sexual partners feel so empty and disappointed that they move on to someone else? What they are looking for is MORE. God designed sex to be an investment in each others' lives forever. To love someone is to work for their highest good. Sex in loving marriage builds long-term wholeness. Sex in marriage is God's way of making two people "one". (Gen. 4:1) The Bible word for sexual intimacy is to "know" another: to be close and share on the most deep and lasting level a man and woman can experience. (Eph. 5:20-32) You can love and be loved forever! But every sexual act with a stranger strains or shatters the bond you build with the one you want as the love of your life. The ghosts come back to get you. (Prov. 5:16-23)

A Reason To Save Sex For Marriage: Part 4

DISTRUST: "Not all of passion is love and not all of love is passion" The fence of sex before marriage is a key test of trust. Keep your gate locked from all others and from each other until God gives you the key in your public, sacred vows. But jump that fence early, and you violate that trust. You will never be sure from that time on if you can trust either your partner or yourself. You will always live with the secret question: If we jumped the fence once and broke the rules, who says it won't happen again? If we couldn't trust ourselves to hold back before marriage, how can we ever be sure it can't happen to either of us after marriage? And that fear hurts love. (I Jn. 4:18)

A Reason To Sex For Marriage: Part 3

DISAPPOINTMENT:She did it because he said he "loved" her. He pushed her into it because he wanted to prove he was a real man. Her friends said it was all right as long as she really loved him. His friends told him everybody else had and what was he waiting for?And they were utterly wrong. Sex is never casual. Sex is God's gift, and nothing God ever gives is casual. Because sex itself is so deep, sexual hurt is never shallow. What you do and what you learn in sex builds a pattern, burns a memory that will last you for life. Scars from sexual sin never go away. Each time you link your body and your soul to someone else, the re- runs start of everything you have done before with anyone else. That is why "try before you buy" is such a stupid idea when it comes to sex.In the trying is the buying.Every hurt, every disappointment, every rejection carries over to the next time.You can't avoid the re-runs.

A Reason To Save Sex For Marriage: Part one

DEBT: Over a million teenage girls get pregnant every year. Free love isn't free. Each baby born to a teen outside of marriage demands more than $ 100,000 in government welfare. The cost of teenage child-bearing in the US alone in a single year is over 16.5 BILLION dollars! But the cost is much higher than that. What price do you put on a hurt heart? How much is a mind worth without peace? Who counts the cost of a shattered and shamed self, a lost trust, ruined respect or a broken dream? What does it really cost to bring an unwanted baby into the world, or even worse to take its little life because it interferes with someone's personal pursuit of pleasure? Free sex is never free. Someone always pays. Promiscuity has an awful price. "You are not your own."(I Cor. 6:19)

A Reason To Save Sex For Marriage: Part 2

DISEASE: Twenty years ago there were two sexually transmitted diseases. Now there are twenty-nine. Every nine months they find a new one. Twelve million people contract a sexual disease every year in the US alone; 33,000 a day. Some, like AIDS, will kill you in just a couple of years. Some will just make you wish you were dead. Some will hurt your children. Marry a virgin as a virgin yourself and both of you live with the same love all your life. That's God's plan. True sexual freedom dose not means the ability to sleep with anyone as often as you like. Real sexual freedom means to be able to love without walls, without caution, without cares; to be able to trust the one you love without reservation and without hesitation. All this is possible in marriage—and only in marriage

3 Ways to Guarantee Your Husband Won't Cheat on You?

Before we get started with this article, let me get something out in the open. We can't change our husbands and we certainly cannot control his morals and convictions, but we can influence our husbands by using a little bit of common sense and Godly wisdom. So with that said, try these three ways to maybe guarantee your husband never cheats on you. 

1) Stay Connected Emotionally and Spiritually With Your Husband

Marriage is a relationship that involves two people in such a way that whatever you do, good or bad affects the other. If a wife makes her career, friends, money, hobbies, clothes and other stuff more important than her husband she is disconnecting herself from him emotionally and spiritually. A husband wants to be the most important part of his wife's life. Don't separate your life from his. 

Emotional adultery starts in the heart and when a husband feels emotionally distant from his wife it is much easier for him to see greener grass on the other side of the fence. It's no excuse for adultery and it certainly does not make it right, but reality dictates it will most likely happen in marriages where there is no "togetherness". 

Now a days, married couples unknowingly separate themselves from one another by not having their priorities in balance. In many homes friends, hobbies and careers come first and husband and wife never spend any quality, intimate time together. If you never do intimate and fun things together, you will lose the glue that holds the marriage together. 

2) Let Your Husband Be the Man in the Marriage

Many wives don't realize they are doing it, but they often reprimand, belittle and boss their husbands around like he is one of the children. Are you his mother or his wife? He wants to feel close and intimate with his feminine wife, not his mother, or worse, a dictator. Make your man feel good about his role as "man of the house" and "man of the marriage", because he is the man and you are the woman. Mixed up roles and feministic attitudes cause confusion, which creates crumbling of the "one flesh" of marriage. 

Wives need to stop micromanaging their husbands and let them direct the show for a change. Do you realize that it is wives that need to change? That's because women walk into marriage with rose-colored glasses on. They think marriage was created just for them and their happiness! When wives nag, complain, control or try to change their husbands they are essentially saying they are not good enough. What a way to make your man impotent with his wife! If you want a virile man that only has eyes for you, then treat your man like a man! Stop treating him like a little boy! 

3) Keep Yourself Healthy and Fit

The worse thing a woman can do when married is let herself go. I don't care if you are 20, 40 or 65 years old, a woman can still make herself beautiful. Beauty is relative, meaning, so what if you are getting older, use it to your advantage to make yourself fit and good-looking no matter what your age. Many women, after they get married or reach a certain age stop taking care of their health and weight and allow themselves to become frumpy and unhealthy.

I know of beautiful women, who are nice and slim, who are between the ages of 50 and 70 and they look great! They walk every day, eat right and take care of themselves. And so can you! There is nothing wrong with getting older, what makes it wrong is not taking care of your appearance and health. Being healthy should be a priority in your life. We absolutely need to care about our health because frankly folks, if we don't have our health, nothing else matters in life because we won't enjoy it.

Advice to young adults

Bad decisions affect each of our lives regardless of age. 
Problematically, when a decision 
backfires, we pout about making a mistake and doubt our future 
abilities; we take two steps back for every step we move forward. 
Even worse, the bad decisions we 
all make wreak havoc in our lives 
and create stress that damages our 
bodies and minds. One way to 
counteract habitual bad decision- making is to make excellent 
decisions as often as possible. We Young adults, in particular, need to 
make better decisions and make 
them more consistently. This is 
especially true when it comes to 
this issues that young people 
struggle with most often – time management, priorities and 
perspective. Bad decisions in these 
areas do not happen in isolation. 
There are actually many causes 
lurking in the background such as: 
(1) lack of forethought, (2) inability to analyze consequences, (3) 
fleeting time, (4) fear of failure and 
(5) peer pressure.May God Help us make better dicisions in Jesus name

Hollywood Romance or Real Relationship?

You've dreamed about a dashing romantic hero who will sweep you off your feet and take you away from the dullness of everyday life. Far away from the boredom of the mundane, you will delight in the continuous excitement of true love!

'Course, there are many, many ways this scene can play out. It's as unique as your own life, colored by the different experiences you've had and the people you've met.

For instance, you just might find yourself on a cruise ship in the middle of the north Atlantic Ocean, and a handsome young man discovers how beautiful you are. Amidst chaos and confusion, as the ship begins to sink, the two of you run away from the crowds to steal a desperate kiss.

Or, you may be listening to a radio program and hear the sorrowful voice of a young widower, struggling to survive the loss of his beloved wife. Strangely compelled to write to this man, you send off a letter inviting him to meet you on top of the Empire State Building on Valentine's Day for a second chance at love.

Even better, you risk your own life rescuing a young man who was thrown in front of a subway train. Sitting by his side, as he remains in a coma at the hospital, you gradually fall in love with his rugged older brother, who's more suited for you than you ever imagined.

Take your pick - there's even the slim, but plausible, chance that a young European prince would choose your college for some undergraduate work in an attempt to discover the ins and outs of American lifestyle. Instead, he falls hard for the "girl next door" who's not even expecting love.

Um, yeah. If these plots sound vaguely familiar, it's because they are. All of these situations have been presented as a wonderful ideal of romance and true love, made to sell us on the idea of love being all you need. Hollywood does a great job of that, ignoring the fact, of course, that fifty percent (or more) of marriages based on love continue to end tragically in divorce.

Maybe you have observed or even suffered as a casualty of divorce, shaken to your core, trying to reconcile the romantic dreams you desire with the harsh reality of a broken world. Every guy you meet is held to an impossible standard - the perfect romantic hero who will never desert his lover. Well, if he doesn't meet the standard, you can't possibly be hurt by him, right?

Right. You also might find it difficult to get married, though. Guys are like that - they want to be the hero, so if they aren't, they probably won't stick around!

What does a real relationship consist of? Let's pick a more authoritative source this time. How about the Bible?

Matthew 19:4-6:

And He [Jesus] answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He Who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female' and said, 'for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." (NKJV)

Wait a minute....where's the part about the dashing romantic hero? What about flowers, and chocolate, and candlelit dinners? I don't even see anything about true love!

Maybe that's because marriage is more than love - it's about two becoming one. It's about serving your guts out to make life easier for the other. It's about faithfulness in the midst of trials. It's about better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health.

What's going to happen after the honeymoon? Working, cooking, cleaning, paying bills, changing diapers, disciplining children, serving on committees, corralling teenagers, saving for retirement....etc. etc. etc. There will be vacations and romance, sure, but a whole lot of work in between. Plus, you will have a 24/7 accountability partner to observe every single sin and weakness in your own life.

If you can find a man who's willing to go through this with you, then you have found a treasure, and true love, even without the swelling orchestral strains and softened camera angles! A committed, real friendship will long outlast the short-lived emotions of romance.

What does it mean to go through life together? To become one flesh? Paul said it best:

"This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church." Ephesians 5:32 NKJV

What did Christ do for us? He laid down his life so we might be saved. If there's ever a romantic hero, this is it! What does (or should) the church do for Christ? We give our lives for His glory.

You can hold out for a dashingly romantic story, to be swept off your feet and drawn into the rapturous songs of love. Or, maybe you can ground yourself down to earth, and keep your eye out for a friend who wants to walk this journey of life together with you. If you are willing to give your life for another, to serve, rather than to be served, then love will find you.

Even if it's just a little bit different than your dreams!

Why Most Young People Today Are Not Prepared For Marriage

This article speaks in generalities and what I have experienced in the young people I personally know today. I am not putting all 20-somethings into this category. You be the judge and decide for yourself if you are prepared for a lifetime marriage or not.

Most young people are not prepared for marriage because they have never been taught the wife/husband and the woman/man roles for marriage. Most women walk into marriage with the attitude of how her husband can make her happy 24/7 and both of them walk into the marriage with feelings of desire and lust. This is not to say they do not love one another, but it is to say which are you basing the marriage on, love or feelings.

Many times, because the husband does not truly know what his role is in the marriage, the wife in her disappointment becomes bossy and critical of her husband, but she does not know what his role is either, or hers for that matter. Then because of the lack of positive attention from his wife, the husband becomes bored and thinks he is not in love anymore.

Of course if you're going to have a marriage just like everyone else that will have a 50 to 60 percent chance rate of failure, then I suppose it does not matter if you have not been taught how to treat the opposite sex and love the person you marry. But if we want a godly marriage based on God's principles then we DO NEED to know a little bit about what is expected of us so we can honor God with our marriage, not turn it into a shambles.

A couple should never walk into marriage thinking that the marriage is for their happiness and enjoyment, or think that our spouses are supposed to fulfill our every nonsensical whim and make us happy 24/7. That would be a fairytale marriage and there is no such thing as a fairytale marriage. The closest you will get to a fairytale marriage is if you manage your marriage under God's relationship principles. Love must be without dissimulation.

Have you ever noticed how the fairytale books always say in the end "and they lived happily ever after"? But this is VERY misleading and presumptuous, would you say? It's just like telling small children about the existence of santa clause and the tooth fairy. It is ridiculous to have your daughter grow up believing that she will be whisked up by prince charming and the marriage will be happily ever after. It's a delusion.

Let me show you the difference between the fairytale marriage and the Godly Marriage. Now remember, fairytale marriages don't last because reality sets in and couples cannot handle the stress put upon what they presumed would be happily ever after.

Godly Marriage

* Godly marriages believe that happiness comes from within our spirit because of our relationship with God, and that marriage is made for honoring Godits creator!

* Godly marriage is based upon God's principles of love, serving one another in love, which ultimately honors God.

*Godly marriage is built upon commitment until death do you part rather than the "I'm not in love with you anymore" part.

Fairytale Marriage

* Fairytale marriages believe that happiness comes from each other, which makes marriage even more selfish.

* Fairytale marriages believe that love is a feeling, which causes people to think they are not in love anymore.

* Fairytale marriage never last because the fairytale eventually ends.

*Fairytale marriage are based on feelings rather than commitment

Don't Date Naked

We live in a time when sexual purity among men and women has become a thing of the past. Today's culture is putting more and more pressure on individuals to hook up and do "whatever feels good at the moment," regardless of the consequences. Popular television shows and glossy magazines portray the lives of attractive, upscale celebrities who engage in risky sexual behavior.

In their extremely informative and insightful book "Boundaries in Dating," psychiatrists Henry Cloud and John Townsend pointed out that to be a whole person means every single aspect--spiritual, physical, intellectual, emotional, and relational--of that person is integrated and functioning. When a man or woman chooses to act out sexually while still on the low-commitment, getting-to-know-you stage of casual dating, the entire relational process is cut short.

It's a sad fact that a lot of people have been shortchanged by escalating the physical level of their dating relationships too quickly, finding out later on in marriage that their partner is incapable of a true relationship. They found out that lust, not love, was driving the pace.

Intimacy while dating doesn't mean sharing each other's bodies. Effective dating is a meeting of the minds, thoughts, feelings, dreams, and goals of emotionally mature individuals who are prayerfully considering marriage. When you give 100 percent of your body to a person who's not yours (meaning he's not committed to you in marriage), you have overstepped your sexual boundaries.

When a person makes the decision to commit himself to sexual purity while dating, he is showing proof that he is fulfilled in his relationship with the Lord. He is allowing God to work on his character, and self-control is one of the fruits of being spiritually connected. Delaying sexual gratification means that he is also willing to make the necessary sacrifices required later on in marriage.

If you're in a dating relationship right now and you're being pushed by your date into premature sexual intimacy, ask yourself, "If he can't show respect for me now, what makes me think that he'll be considerate about my feelings in the future?"

God designed the sexual act, but He was also wise enough to command us to keep it within the boundaries of marriage.

10 Steps To Build Quality Relationship That Will Enhance Your Success Story

What effect does your present relationship have on your success story? No relationship leaves you the same way: it builds you up or destroys you, determines your failure or success in life. Therefore, it is very vital that you know how to build quality relationship. This article aims to equip you with basic but adequate knowledge on how to do just that.

Through skillful and godly Wisdom is a house (a life, a home, a family) built, and by understanding it is established [on a sound and good foundation], and by knowledge shall its chambers [of every area] be filled with all precious and pleasant riches. - Proverb 24: 3-4 (AMP)

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it! - Proverbs 15:1, 23 (KJV)

It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. - 1 Corinthians 13:5 (AMP)

Every success story starts with a relationship. You need people to be successful in life. The key to your success or failure is your ability to build and maintain quality relationship in all areas of your life. However, a word of caution here: no two persons are the same, everyone is unique. Therefore, it is important that you relate to individuals according to your knowledge of them. Every relationship is to benefit everyone involved.

How to build relationship of great quality

1. Have a relationship with God
First and foremost, build a relationship with God. How you relate with God determines how you will relate with your fellow human beings. A close walk with God builds you to be like Him: to think, talk and act like Him. A relationship with God is the foundation for any success story. Remember, God is the God of success. This outstanding world we are in is a proof of that.

2. Have an understanding Attitude
There is nobody you cannot relate with. All you need is an understanding attitude. It will help you to avoid any misunderstanding. A good picture of the person you are relating with will determine what you say, when and how you say a thing. Also, it will determine how you act before the person.

3. Be rational
Emotion, though important to relationships, needs to be balanced with reason. Too much emotion can distort your judgement and consequently your success story. When you balance emotion with reason, you tend to make fewer mistakes in life.

4. Acquire good communication skills
Communication is the bed-rock of any relationship. Where there is no effective communication, there will be no quality relationship. Develop good communication skills, most especially listening skills. In order to build relationship that will enhance success, you need to learn how to pass across information, feelings, etc effectively to another person. Let the person get the message as you do.

5. Be reliable
A strong relationship is characterized by reliability on the part of everyone involved. Be wholly trustworthy, predictable, honest, clear and reliable, but not naive.

6. Employ the power of influence
The power of influence is more effective and impactful than that of dictatorship. Don't be coercive or forceful in your approach. Rather, be persuasive and likewise open to persuasion.

7. Learn the act of applying brakes
If you believe in that relationship you will not be in haste. Building quality relationship demands that you make some sacrifices, including sacrificing time, to really appreciate the person you are relating with. Applying the brakes will uncover certain traits in the person that will enhance success for you; this you will miss if you are in a hurry. Also, you will have a better opinion of that person.

8. Practice not judging others
Being judgemental is detrimental to any success story. No one enjoys being judged by others. You are human with both faults and good qualities, so also your friend, spouse, colleague, etc. By avoiding being judgemental in your daily life, you will attract comments, suggestions and ideas that will boost your success in life.

9. Practice true love
Quality relationships are built on the foundation of true love. Love that prefers another to oneself builds relationships that bring out the best in everyone involved. When you walk in true love towards your friend or spouse, etc, you provoke him or her into doing all he or she can do to increase your success story.

10. Learn to say NO when due
To build relationship of great quality, you need to know when to say NO and stick to it. Understand your place in that relationship. Don't allow anybody to manipulate you: it will not enhance success for you. Setting limits in your relationships means learning to love and trust yourself. Someone who recognizes that you respect yourself will most likely respect you too.

Many people understand the power of relationship but lack the knowledge of how to use it to enhance their success story. Following the above steps will certainly set you on the right path. Really, it is possible to build quality relationship that will make you a success in life, but the responsibility is yours. Take right steps today and your story will be the next to be shared!

Why Love Is a Choice, Not an Emotion by Karla Downing

Why is love a choice and not an emotion? The emotional component of love that we associate with feeling "loving" isn't consistent. For a relationship to be solid, there has to be consistency. Choosing to love means one will choose actions that demonstrate love regardless of the emotion that is felt (1 Corinthians 13). Here are five things that you choose to do when you love someone whether you are feeling angry, disappointed, distant, hurt, upset, loving, irritated, happy, unhappy or anything else:

1. You act in a way that is in the person's best interest. When you love someone, you have goodwill toward that person and act in a way that supports and cares. You do not purposefully bring harm or ill will toward them. You want to see the person happy, successful, secure, and fulfilled. Loving someone means you are invested fully in the person's well being. This is part of the commitment you make to the person when you enter the relationship. Romans 13:10 says, "Love does no harm to its neighbor" (NIV).

2. You take the person's needs into consideration.It doesn't mean you always have to do what the person wants or that it is wrong to put your own needs first. It just means you will consider what the other person wants and needs as much as you take your own needs into consideration. It is a balancing act that means you will sometimes sacrifice your own needs and wants for the other person and other times decide that you need to put yourself first. Philippians 2:4 says, "Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others" (NIV).

3. You work toward understanding the person's viewpoint.Your own viewpoint makes sense to you, because it is yours. However when you love someone, it is important that you work toward understanding how he/she thinks and sees things. That person's opinions and emotions, albeit often different than yours, are equally important and you need to put energy into getting what is going on with the person. Part of feeling loved is to be understood for who you are. Proverbs 20:5 says, "The purposes of a man's heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out" (NIV).

4. You treat the person respectively. No matter how you feel, you can control how you act. You don't have the right to mistreat someone just because you are emotionally upset. One of the worst things you can do in a relationship is to treat your partner with contempt and disrespect. When you respect your partner, you speak and act in a way that conveys that the person is valuable to you. God wants respect in relationships. He tells husbands to respect their wives (1 Peter 3:7) and wives to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:33).

5. You are committed to the relationship. If love were demonstrated only when one had loving feelings, then relationships would be roller coasters. Commitment is the additive that makes the road smooth and flat. Commitment means the relationship is bigger than either one of the partners. The good of the relationship becomes the goal. The marriage, relationship, or partnership is more important than either of the people in it. This helps both people rise above each person's sometimes competing views and needs. God views marriage and a committed sexual relationship as an entity. Two become one (Genesis 2:24) and the one is a union that is to be cherished and not broken, if at all possible.

Why is a love a choice and not an emotion? Because, it wouldn't be love if it depended on the ups and downs of the emotional feeling we associate with feeling "loving."

Sex sex sex thats the cry i hear from some young adults. this thing is killing me, lord, come to my rescue. yet another bulk of persons ask how, why and when do i explore it. for the former this is a lifeline and for the later its time to maximize this gift that glues you together forever till death do you part.There are lots of questions to answer about the subject of sex, yet everyone seems to shy away from it. consequently young people are left to find out sometimes by gruesome experiment that not only leave their fingers burnt but also produce problematic situations in places where life ought to have been more pleasurable.if you have imprisoned yourself you can be set free. if you have been imprisoned by others you can be set free and this freedom comes because God is putting into your hand the ability to destroy your enemies.if there is any fight at all it should first be a fight against the members of our household. your eyes and what trips you. your tongue and the tastes you savor the most. your ears and what tickles them. in fact, tour entire sensory system with which you make contact with the earth.


1 Corinthians 6:19-20(KJV)

What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

But all of your sensory system can influence you so badly that you get ensnared in the dungeons of immorality. Sexual immorality in this case.it's like a taboo to delve into the subject of sex from the pulpit but you can be sure that many of the struggles that saint have with flesh, is not unconnected with the emotions that seek satisfaction from sexual activities.It is therefore necessary to sound an alarm to let the saints know that God is aware of their struggles and and has a way of escape. Although the struggle with sex cuts across races and tribes and affects both atheists, Pentecostals, orthodox, young adult, children, singles and married people as well.Men in authority are so often messed up by distractions from ladies on mini skirts. Some soon divorce the woman who held the ladder to help them climb up, for a sex symbol they now flunt around as first ladies. It is all a part of the struggle.Ask Bill Clinton how are with Monica Lewisky, he will tell you it was the devil but ask the devil if you find him, he will tell you hr knew nothing about it. So ask me now and i dare to say "am afraid, you are not  better off" You have too mush at stake in life for you to mess up on the seat of immorality. What you will gain by living right is much more than what you think you will gain when you let your feelings amok. Choose now to live right and watch your world stand in a loud ovation for you.