DISAPPOINTMENT:She did it because he said he "loved" her. He pushed her into it because he wanted to prove he was a real man. Her friends said it was all right as long as she really loved him. His friends told him everybody else had and what was he waiting for?And they were utterly wrong. Sex is never casual. Sex is God's gift, and nothing God ever gives is casual. Because sex itself is so deep, sexual hurt is never shallow. What you do and what you learn in sex builds a pattern, burns a memory that will last you for life. Scars from sexual sin never go away. Each time you link your body and your soul to someone else, the re- runs start of everything you have done before with anyone else. That is why "try before you buy" is such a stupid idea when it comes to sex.In the trying is the buying.Every hurt, every disappointment, every rejection carries over to the next time.You can't avoid the re-runs.
Friday, September 21, 2012
Friday, September 7, 2012
A Reason To Save Sex For Marriage: Part one
DEBT: Over a million teenage girls get pregnant every year. Free love isn't free. Each baby born to a teen outside of marriage demands more than $ 100,000 in government welfare. The cost of teenage child-bearing in the US alone in a single year is over 16.5 BILLION dollars! But the cost is much higher than that. What price do you put on a hurt heart? How much is a mind worth without peace? Who counts the cost of a shattered and shamed self, a lost trust, ruined respect or a broken dream? What does it really cost to bring an unwanted baby into the world, or even worse to take its little life because it interferes with someone's personal pursuit of pleasure? Free sex is never free. Someone always pays. Promiscuity has an awful price. "You are not your own."(I Cor. 6:19)
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
A Reason To Save Sex For Marriage: Part 2
DISEASE: Twenty years ago there were two sexually transmitted diseases. Now there are twenty-nine. Every nine months they find a new one. Twelve million people contract a sexual disease every year in the US alone; 33,000 a day. Some, like AIDS, will kill you in just a couple of years. Some will just make you wish you were dead. Some will hurt your children. Marry a virgin as a virgin yourself and both of you live with the same love all your life. That's God's plan. True sexual freedom dose not means the ability to sleep with anyone as often as you like. Real sexual freedom means to be able to love without walls, without caution, without cares; to be able to trust the one you love without reservation and without hesitation. All this is possible in marriage—and only in marriage
3 Ways to Guarantee Your Husband Won't Cheat on You?
Before we get started with this article, let me get something out in the open. We can't change our husbands and we certainly cannot control his morals and convictions, but we can influence our husbands by using a little bit of common sense and Godly wisdom. So with that said, try these three ways to maybe guarantee your husband never cheats on you.
1) Stay Connected Emotionally and Spiritually With Your Husband
Marriage is a relationship that involves two people in such a way that whatever you do, good or bad affects the other. If a wife makes her career, friends, money, hobbies, clothes and other stuff more important than her husband she is disconnecting herself from him emotionally and spiritually. A husband wants to be the most important part of his wife's life. Don't separate your life from his.
Emotional adultery starts in the heart and when a husband feels emotionally distant from his wife it is much easier for him to see greener grass on the other side of the fence. It's no excuse for adultery and it certainly does not make it right, but reality dictates it will most likely happen in marriages where there is no "togetherness".
Now a days, married couples unknowingly separate themselves from one another by not having their priorities in balance. In many homes friends, hobbies and careers come first and husband and wife never spend any quality, intimate time together. If you never do intimate and fun things together, you will lose the glue that holds the marriage together.
2) Let Your Husband Be the Man in the Marriage
Many wives don't realize they are doing it, but they often reprimand, belittle and boss their husbands around like he is one of the children. Are you his mother or his wife? He wants to feel close and intimate with his feminine wife, not his mother, or worse, a dictator. Make your man feel good about his role as "man of the house" and "man of the marriage", because he is the man and you are the woman. Mixed up roles and feministic attitudes cause confusion, which creates crumbling of the "one flesh" of marriage.
Wives need to stop micromanaging their husbands and let them direct the show for a change. Do you realize that it is wives that need to change? That's because women walk into marriage with rose-colored glasses on. They think marriage was created just for them and their happiness! When wives nag, complain, control or try to change their husbands they are essentially saying they are not good enough. What a way to make your man impotent with his wife! If you want a virile man that only has eyes for you, then treat your man like a man! Stop treating him like a little boy!
3) Keep Yourself Healthy and Fit
The worse thing a woman can do when married is let herself go. I don't care if you are 20, 40 or 65 years old, a woman can still make herself beautiful. Beauty is relative, meaning, so what if you are getting older, use it to your advantage to make yourself fit and good-looking no matter what your age. Many women, after they get married or reach a certain age stop taking care of their health and weight and allow themselves to become frumpy and unhealthy.
I know of beautiful women, who are nice and slim, who are between the ages of 50 and 70 and they look great! They walk every day, eat right and take care of themselves. And so can you! There is nothing wrong with getting older, what makes it wrong is not taking care of your appearance and health. Being healthy should be a priority in your life. We absolutely need to care about our health because frankly folks, if we don't have our health, nothing else matters in life because we won't enjoy it.
1) Stay Connected Emotionally and Spiritually With Your Husband
Marriage is a relationship that involves two people in such a way that whatever you do, good or bad affects the other. If a wife makes her career, friends, money, hobbies, clothes and other stuff more important than her husband she is disconnecting herself from him emotionally and spiritually. A husband wants to be the most important part of his wife's life. Don't separate your life from his.
Emotional adultery starts in the heart and when a husband feels emotionally distant from his wife it is much easier for him to see greener grass on the other side of the fence. It's no excuse for adultery and it certainly does not make it right, but reality dictates it will most likely happen in marriages where there is no "togetherness".
Now a days, married couples unknowingly separate themselves from one another by not having their priorities in balance. In many homes friends, hobbies and careers come first and husband and wife never spend any quality, intimate time together. If you never do intimate and fun things together, you will lose the glue that holds the marriage together.
2) Let Your Husband Be the Man in the Marriage
Many wives don't realize they are doing it, but they often reprimand, belittle and boss their husbands around like he is one of the children. Are you his mother or his wife? He wants to feel close and intimate with his feminine wife, not his mother, or worse, a dictator. Make your man feel good about his role as "man of the house" and "man of the marriage", because he is the man and you are the woman. Mixed up roles and feministic attitudes cause confusion, which creates crumbling of the "one flesh" of marriage.
Wives need to stop micromanaging their husbands and let them direct the show for a change. Do you realize that it is wives that need to change? That's because women walk into marriage with rose-colored glasses on. They think marriage was created just for them and their happiness! When wives nag, complain, control or try to change their husbands they are essentially saying they are not good enough. What a way to make your man impotent with his wife! If you want a virile man that only has eyes for you, then treat your man like a man! Stop treating him like a little boy!
3) Keep Yourself Healthy and Fit
The worse thing a woman can do when married is let herself go. I don't care if you are 20, 40 or 65 years old, a woman can still make herself beautiful. Beauty is relative, meaning, so what if you are getting older, use it to your advantage to make yourself fit and good-looking no matter what your age. Many women, after they get married or reach a certain age stop taking care of their health and weight and allow themselves to become frumpy and unhealthy.
I know of beautiful women, who are nice and slim, who are between the ages of 50 and 70 and they look great! They walk every day, eat right and take care of themselves. And so can you! There is nothing wrong with getting older, what makes it wrong is not taking care of your appearance and health. Being healthy should be a priority in your life. We absolutely need to care about our health because frankly folks, if we don't have our health, nothing else matters in life because we won't enjoy it.
Advice to young adults
Bad decisions affect each of our lives regardless of age.
Problematically, when a decision
backfires, we pout about making a mistake and doubt our future
abilities; we take two steps back for every step we move forward.
Even worse, the bad decisions we
all make wreak havoc in our lives
and create stress that damages our
bodies and minds. One way to
counteract habitual bad decision- making is to make excellent
decisions as often as possible. We Young adults, in particular, need to
make better decisions and make
them more consistently. This is
especially true when it comes to
this issues that young people
struggle with most often – time management, priorities and
perspective. Bad decisions in these
areas do not happen in isolation.
There are actually many causes
lurking in the background such as:
(1) lack of forethought, (2) inability to analyze consequences, (3)
fleeting time, (4) fear of failure and
(5) peer pressure.May God Help us make better dicisions in Jesus name
Problematically, when a decision
backfires, we pout about making a mistake and doubt our future
abilities; we take two steps back for every step we move forward.
Even worse, the bad decisions we
all make wreak havoc in our lives
and create stress that damages our
bodies and minds. One way to
counteract habitual bad decision- making is to make excellent
decisions as often as possible. We Young adults, in particular, need to
make better decisions and make
them more consistently. This is
especially true when it comes to
this issues that young people
struggle with most often – time management, priorities and
perspective. Bad decisions in these
areas do not happen in isolation.
There are actually many causes
lurking in the background such as:
(1) lack of forethought, (2) inability to analyze consequences, (3)
fleeting time, (4) fear of failure and
(5) peer pressure.May God Help us make better dicisions in Jesus name
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