One Flesh, One Spirit

The devil completely lost his grip over my relationship and marriage the day the eyes of my understanding became open to the truth that there is nothing like 'personal salvation' in marriage, no such thing at all.
After marriage your heaven destination no longer becomes yours to decide anymore, the results of your living doesn't affect you alone, but your spouse as well. I'm talking about the fact that you'll be going anywhere your partner is heading, your claim to personal salvation ends at the marriage altar the moment you made the decision to accept completel responsibility for the life and soul of another person. You no longer become the guardian of your soul but that of your spouse as well, you cannot be careful with your own salvation while you let your spouse become careless with theirs, because wherever the product of their life here on earth is leading them that is also where you are also going.
Ephesians 5:27 talks about a presenting.
There will be a presentation of the soul the Master has placed under your care guys, a spotless and blameless presentation, one without commas, spots or wrinkles, I just wish someone can understand this. you have to really think through this marriage thing before making that decision, it's not about the diamond rings and pretty dresses anymore, the priority is never about making love and making babies, marriage is much more deeper than the surface that Hollywood and Zworld is painting for us, much more deeper.
What will you be presenting
Who will you be presenting?
In what condition will you be making your own presentation?
Is it with blisters and swollen eyes? Is it with emotional baggage and pain? Will you be presenting a broken, dejected, confused, regretful wife before God knowing that God doesn't accept garbage and leftovers?
Will you be presenting a worn out, frustrated, pushed into cheating, sex starved, I wish I never married you husband before God knowing the kind of talent multiplication He expects from you?
In What condition will you be making your presentation?
The most amazing part about this truth is that there must be a presentation, one way or another, you will either be making your presentation in the presence of all the host of heaven singing hallelujah with the choirs of angels or you'll be making your presentation in the pits hell with the devil and his colleagues.
This changed my life, this shaped my perspectives, this formed my thought pattern and marriage actions. I just knew I am not that dumb to date just anyone after realizing this, let alone marry out of list, selfish desires or temporary pleasures. I just know that my marriage cannot collapse under my watch, not when I stay ruled by the counsel of the Holy Spirit, I just know it. I just know that I cannot marry wrong, I just know that even the "I love you" that comes out of my mouth has an effect of my salvation, oh leketetetebredosh krrteeetee. Every "YES I DO" promise I exchange with my spouse at the altar will be a determining factor on my journey towards heaven.
It will be very foolish of me to risk my salvation because I am more focused on the size of my wedding cake than the sustainability of the amazing grace I carry. It will be careless of me to spend more time prepararing for a surprise proposal with flowers and music that has no effect on my salvation. Our Dubai honeymoon adds nothing. Changing into 5 different dresses at the wedding reception will not change my eternal destination, catatayema brahamatosh, they play no part.
We have to get this right guys, out life's depends on it, our happiness depends on it, our salvation depends on it, I was not born into the earth to escort anyone to hell in the name of marriage, I cannot be married to anyone who will make it impossible for me to take responsibility for their salvation and mine. I cannot afford to let anyone come into my life and marry me out of God's beautiful fellowship, I know too much to allow that error, I know that when TWO becomes ONE in marriage salvation no longer becomes personal, yours and mine becomes linked, we become dependent on each other's righteousness, we become ONE FLESH, we share ONE SPIRIT, journeying towards ONE DESTINATION.
Can somebody confess this with me in faith;
IT IS TOO LATE FOR MY MARRIAGE TO FAIL!

Dear Booless

Whoever told you that keeping a relationship is not important told you a lie straight from the pits of hell. A healthy godly relationship is very important, oh yes it is. It is important to be with someone who will grow through life with you. It is important to build with someone who will understand your weaknesses and appreciate your strengths. It is important to love someone who will set goals with you and smash them. It is important to have someone who God can trust with anything that concerns you. But as important as it is to keep a relationship, it is not compulsory. Nope, definitely not.
I am a huge fan of godly relationships and healthy marriages, but if you are still single and reading through this text I want you to know that your values has nothing to do with your relationship status, but everything to do with a God who has made you whole, complete and lacking nothing . . . . . all while you're standing alone, single and proud.
You may see this stage of singleness as a bad thing, like if you’re somewhere around your 20's and you are still single it is thought of as a curse or a setback. As a matter of fact there is probably no other stage of life that is wished away faster than the stage of singleness, you probably cannot wait for this to pass, your heart is probably itching for that perfect relationship of your dreams, you have envisioned your own proposal and even planned your bridal shower in your head. I bet you already have a wedding colour in mind for your bridesmaids. You just can't wait right? Your friends are all happily dating and you are the only one left, the odd one out, Simbi the cursed child. It is tough for you right now I know, especially with those longings, desires, hopes, and foolish fantasies sprinting inside your mind;
“I just want a man, someone that can be there for me, listen to all my worries, buy me nice gifts, take me out, and mushy mushy everywhere together."
"I just want a woman who can come and take care of me like a nanny, beautiful, respectful, submissive, hardworking, and a big buttocks to complement her character."
But there you are, single, and feeling like you are incomplete, like something is missing, like you're not normal, your confidence is low, you drag your esteem when you're around people, because you're not in a relationship, and in your heart you feel happiness is on the other side of dating.
No, happiness is right where you are, the reason why you're not feeling it is because you're not creating it, and the reason why you're not creating happiness is because you're waiting to find it on the other side of dating. You're feeling incomplete because you're waiting for someone to come and complete you. Oh no, finding the missing piece does not imply that there is something missing inside you, it only means that you're looking out for someone who will come and share in your happiness, not creating happiness for you.
I hope you caught this tight?
You are perfect, you are complete in every definition of the word. Love yourself, invest this time to discover and make yourself a better person for that someone who God will put in your life. Keeping a relationship is not compulsory at all, don't jump into one because of the pressure, if you have stayed single and it hasn’t killed you yet, don't hurry now. Be patient and let God prepare you for someone with His divine seal of approval.
STAY SINGLE! . . . . . AND PROUD!

AM I MOVING TOO FAST?

It’s barely been a week since you met this charming guy and he is already making your head swell. You’ve got him crowding your Facebook statuses, you're talking about him on your WhatsApp updates, and his face is the customized profile photo on all the social channels you subscribe to.
In just 4 weeks he already has access to your emails, passwords and text messages. He’s kissing, hugging and having his body all over you. Prince charming now decides the kind of parties you attend and the company of friends you should keep. He is cutting off your old buddies and you're cool with it, you don't mind, you just love him. He has you asking his permission before doing anything, and it's alright, you like how he's taking the lead as a real man! You’re talking about him with your friends and everyone in your inner cycle. Your mom already knows, dad knows, your pastor knows, but you know no one in his family besides his cousin, and that too is cool with you right? You guys are already talking about meeting his family, although he just wants to take it slow yea? You just cannot wait to be introduced, ain't it?
I know the first few months of that relationship has been one of the best experience you’ve had in a very long while, you’ve idealized and painted beautiful pictures of how Alex is the sweetest, funniest, nicest and the most coolest guy you’ve ever met, and you believe this one is going to be different from all the others you have dated in the past. He’s so cute and caring and you’re getting those butterfly in your stomach feelings that you would marry him right now if he falls on his knees to ask you sweetly.
But wait dear Kate, before you start moving too fast I would like for you to understand this;
The early stage of a relationship is usually the most confusing and the most misleading phase of love. You know how it is when you first met that special someone, the emotions burning through your vains are usually so high that it gives you no room to think or focus on the true quality of the person. Here, the love is usually the strongest, because you're both trying to meet the expectations of the other. You will both be eager to do anything for each other, catch a grenade, jump in front of a moving train, put your hand in the blade, let go of your friends, cut out your own social life, submit to everything your partner says, because all you're thinking about here is how to impress and keep them happy.
Your partner will call to check on you 5 times a day, even when calling is clearly not their thing. They will google all the romantic text messages they can find to keep you smiling, even when texting is not their strongest quality. They will initiate and plan all the hangouts because there is a rush in their vains to spend all the time in the world with you. In all of these love jamboree, you will give yourself no room to see their faults, weakeneses and shortçomings. They're too perfect, too complete, too caring, too loving, that is all you see, the LIGHT sides of each other that has perfectly overshadowed the DARK sides. And you know how it goes a few months later, sometimes even weeks, when the light starts to fade out, their true quality becomes clearer to you, their every hour calls becomes a traditional one call a day at night. Their I LOVE YOU romantic text messages slowly changes to "please call me". Here you must have invested so much in the relationship to even consider walking backwards, you probably must have had sex with Alex countless times in the rush. So now you just keep loving, hoping that one day things will go back to how it was the very first time.
Don't put yourself in this condition dear Kate, or dear Alex because this usually goes both ways. Don't move too fast, give that young love a chance to get tested, give yourself a chance to really get to know the person you're loving. Trust me, when you're with the right person, with all the right qualities that you accept in them, the emotions will never end.

Some things the singles cannot see and the married are not tellingthem.

We live in a dissatisfied generation. Those who are short in height wished they were taller.
The white is tanning their bodies trying to get dark, the blacks are bleaching trying to get
white. The young are tinting their hair white, the old are dyeing their hair black. Singles are
posing with wedding ring, those married forget to wear it, those with beards are shaving
off, those with none are using methylated spirit to grow some! Today, I have a story to tell.
Are you ready for it? Here we go. Once upon a time, (time – time), when I was single, I
looked forward to
marriage. Now that I am married, I missed the time I was single! End of story!
Singles will hardly believe that because all in their mind is to get married so that everything
can change. I have been happily married for fourteen years and here are a few things I
have learned that might bless you if you are still single.
1. Marriage will not make you happier. Be happy before marriage. Marriage has no power
in itself beyond the two people involved.
2. Marriage will not change you. Change begins inwardly. Marriage is not a change agent.
Marriage will not improve your attitudes, it will expose them. Marriage does not eliminate
your weaknesses, it will amplify them. Start working on your attitudes and weaknesses
before marriage.
3. Marriage will not cure loneliness. There are several married people who have their
spouses with them by the second, but are extremely lonely. Loneliness is more of a state of
mind than availability of people around you. The loneliest people in the world are
sometimes the ones with large number of fans and crowd around them. Only God’s word
can cure the root cause of loneliness.
4. Marriage will not take pressures away, it will probably bring more. You have one more
life to manage. If you cannot manage yours and you venture into marriage, it will be a
disaster. When the children start coming, there will be more pressures. Learn to take
pressures head on by casting your care on Jesus and refusing to worry like the scripture
advises.
5. Marriage is not all about sex. Ask somebody who is married. Yes, sex is a marital glue,
a healing balm in the soul for couples, and a blessing that keeps couples together. But it is
not like you think, sex in the morning, afternoon and evening. Average couples actually
make love twice or thrice in a week. However, the more frequent it is for married couples,
the better for them.
6. Your spouse will not be a magician neither is he the Holy Spirit. He will be a human
being with his
own issues. You will always need God. He might be very anointed on the pulpit and filled
with God’s glory while she is ministering in the choir, but at home he or she is a human
being with all the weaknesses complete. Learn to separate the office or position of your
spouse from his or her person at home.
7. Marriage is not all about kisses, flowers, cinemas, cakes, chocolates and vacations
alone. It is about cooking, pampers, crying baby, working, paying school fees and so on. It
is about budgets, plans, strategies and divine wisdom. It is about submission to your
husband who you sometimes think is hard, insensitive and unloving. It is about loving your
wife who you sometimes think is stubborn, does not want to be corrected and can nag
from morning till next day.